وَمِنْ آيَاتِهِ~ِ أَنْ خَلَقَ لَكُمْ مِنْ أَنفُسِكُمْ
أَزْوَاجا ً لِتَسْكُنُوا إِلَيْهَا وَجَعَلَ بَيْنَكُمْ
مَوَدَّة ً وَرَحْمَة ً إِنَّ فِي ذَلِكَ لَآيَات
أَزْوَاجا ً لِتَسْكُنُوا إِلَيْهَا وَجَعَلَ بَيْنَكُمْ
مَوَدَّة ً وَرَحْمَة ً إِنَّ فِي ذَلِكَ لَآيَات
لِقَوْم ٍ يَتَفَكَّرُونَ
Mash asked a question on twitter the other day - do you mind if your marriage prospect considers other prospects while still in negotiation with you?
I would mind.
Sometimes people are scared of giving it their all either because of what society will say if it doesnt work out, or scared that they may give too much of themselves and they feel like they are vulnerable afterwards. Its hard to quell these fears sometimes. These are legitimate concerns.
We are all so sure the one moment, and so unsure the next. Faith is often needed to galvanise fleeting blotches of endearment and attraction. This qualitative emotion that binds and blinds us all.
Sometimes we get irritated by peoples shortcomings. Our rickety pedestals mask our own inadequacies well. I am willing to change if that change will make me a better person. I am not willing to change for society - and I expect the same of my wife, whoever she may be.
I'm supposed to be scared about marriage, because it is for.ever.
But im not.
I do not know who I will marry, let alone whether I will marry at all. All I know is that I am not scared of it. I dont expect it to be easy but at the same time I do not think I will make it difficult.
I just finished surah Nisa (Hmm, I know, i'm lagging) and the following ayat stood out for me
Live with them in Kindness even if you dislike anything about them, it may be that you dislike something in which Allah has placed a lot of good for you. (4:19)
Every moment has brought me to this.
I dont blog much these days for a few reasons, but i'l get into that in another post. We are going to revive a boys only Halqah/ Dhikr/ Tafseer session every Friday after Taraweeh - if you are keen, hit me with an e-mail and i'l give you more details. The plan is to have a halqah and then a meal. My Spur suggestion has been vetoed like six times so i'm hoping to get some new blood on my side so we can overthrow that decision somehow. We will Prevail!
MJ
I would mind.
Sometimes people are scared of giving it their all either because of what society will say if it doesnt work out, or scared that they may give too much of themselves and they feel like they are vulnerable afterwards. Its hard to quell these fears sometimes. These are legitimate concerns.
We are all so sure the one moment, and so unsure the next. Faith is often needed to galvanise fleeting blotches of endearment and attraction. This qualitative emotion that binds and blinds us all.
Sometimes we get irritated by peoples shortcomings. Our rickety pedestals mask our own inadequacies well. I am willing to change if that change will make me a better person. I am not willing to change for society - and I expect the same of my wife, whoever she may be.
I'm supposed to be scared about marriage, because it is for.ever.
But im not.
I do not know who I will marry, let alone whether I will marry at all. All I know is that I am not scared of it. I dont expect it to be easy but at the same time I do not think I will make it difficult.
I just finished surah Nisa (Hmm, I know, i'm lagging) and the following ayat stood out for me
Live with them in Kindness even if you dislike anything about them, it may be that you dislike something in which Allah has placed a lot of good for you. (4:19)
Every moment has brought me to this.
I dont blog much these days for a few reasons, but i'l get into that in another post. We are going to revive a boys only Halqah/ Dhikr/ Tafseer session every Friday after Taraweeh - if you are keen, hit me with an e-mail and i'l give you more details. The plan is to have a halqah and then a meal. My Spur suggestion has been vetoed like six times so i'm hoping to get some new blood on my side so we can overthrow that decision somehow. We will Prevail!
MJ
