Thursday, August 27, 2009

Concerning Al-Rum

وَمِنْ آيَاتِهِ~ِ أَنْ خَلَقَ لَكُمْ مِنْ أَنفُسِكُمْ
أَزْوَاجا ً لِتَسْكُنُوا إِلَيْهَا وَجَعَلَ بَيْنَكُمْ
مَوَدَّة ً وَرَحْمَة ً إِنَّ فِي ذَلِكَ لَآيَات
لِقَوْم ٍ يَتَفَكَّرُونَ

Mash asked a question on twitter the other day - do you mind if your marriage prospect considers other prospects while still in negotiation with you?

I would mind.

Sometimes people are scared of giving it their all either because of what society will say if it doesnt work out, or scared that they may give too much of themselves and they feel like they are vulnerable afterwards. Its hard to quell these fears sometimes. These are legitimate concerns.

We are all so sure the one moment, and so unsure the next. Faith is often needed to galvanise fleeting blotches of endearment and attraction. This qualitative emotion that binds and blinds us all.

Sometimes we get irritated by peoples shortcomings. Our rickety pedestals mask our own inadequacies well. I am willing to change if that change will make me a better person. I am not willing to change for society - and I expect the same of my wife, whoever she may be.

I'm supposed to be scared about marriage, because it is for.ever.

But im not.

I do not know who I will marry, let alone whether I will marry at all. All I know is that I am not scared of it. I dont expect it to be easy but at the same time I do not think I will make it difficult.

I just finished surah Nisa (Hmm, I know, i'm lagging) and the following ayat stood out for me

Live with them in Kindness even if you dislike anything about them, it may be that you dislike something in which Allah has placed a lot of good for you. (4:19)

Every moment has brought me to this.

I dont blog much these days for a few reasons, but i'l get into that in another post. We are going to revive a boys only Halqah/ Dhikr/ Tafseer session every Friday after Taraweeh - if you are keen, hit me with an e-mail and i'l give you more details. The plan is to have a halqah and then a meal. My Spur suggestion has been vetoed like six times so i'm hoping to get some new blood on my side so we can overthrow that decision somehow. We will Prevail!

MJ

Saturday, August 22, 2009

Concerning Taraa-Wii

I like Ramadaan.

Most of the time.

People ask me, whats the hardest thing about Ramadan - well, its not the hunger, or the taraweeh or anything like that. Honestly, Its trying not to masturbate.

So Obama wishes us a good Ramadan. Shot.

Only thing though - New York Times said that "Relations with the world's 1.5 billion Muslims soured after the U.S.-led invasion of Iraq in 2003." I dont know about you but for me it kinda soured when they Invaded Afghanistan in 2001. Those poor Afghans - no one gives a shit about them.

I signed up for twitter last week. Its kinda pointless. And it wont help you get laid. Stick with facebook for that. Twitter, like so many other forms of social networking, is good for one thing - procrastination.

Tonights taraweeh went well - except for this irritating guy next to me. He was reading really loudly - DURING TARAWEEH SALAAH. Now I understand when little kids recite the surahs in Maghrib and whatnot, I mean, they excited because they learnt it in madressah so they read it out - i'm cool with that.. but not when some guy is screaming in my ear. We all know the first few pages of Surah Baqarah so I was hoping he'd stop at Summun Bukmun Umyun Fahum La Yarji Un. But this guy kept going. LOUDLY! So after Salaam I tap him and ask him to keep it down a bit. The guy on the other side of him was looking to me, making a throat slitting motion and mouthing the words 'tell him to shut up'.

So we stand up, and this guy starts again. But now we are getting into murky territory so i can hear him mumbling where he doesnt know the words. So after Salaam I move to another spot. Thats really what Ramadan is about though - avoiding conflict. Well, that and a bunch of other stuff.

Heres a concept I thought off tonight.


The Bin Laden looking guy (who i took from here) is a mii (Nintendo Wii Avatar) The rest is self explanatory. Nafisa and Waseem might get this. I hope more of you do :P


MJ