Thursday, March 27, 2008

Concerning Butter Chicken

MJ craves butter chicken. This whole staying alone thing is balls. I mean, its great when it comes to things like walking around the house naked (but if you watched How I met your mother you'd know that it quickly becomes boring). I'm tired of pasta. I'm tired of sandwiches, hotdogs, burgers, omelette's, french toast and noodles. I feel for butter chicken, chicken tikka or akhni or biryani. I'm definitely going to get that butter chicken today. Best butter chicken in Durban used to be Eastern Rendezvous by Blue Lagoon but they closed down like six years ago. The Butter chicken from MY Diner is decent, except i find it to be too yellow, I prefer a deeper peach texture, but beggars cant be choosers it seems.

This was one of the best Easters Ive had in my life, culminating in the massively popular (in my eyes) yet highly contested first ever blogger King of the Plate. We are in the events co ordination business so most of my Easters used to revolve around helping dad set up at weddings. For some stupid reason, people like to inconvenience others by getting married on long weekends - its selfish! I'm going to get married on a normal Saturday - none of this long weekend shit for me.

Interesting Easter trivia - in the Czech republic, on Easter Monday, the men spank women with a handmade whip called a pomlázka. Women can retaliate by dousing the men with water - that's really fair. In return for getting a spanking, the woman pays the man with a coloured egg or money. I'm not making this shit up - check it out. apparently, the spanking is done to keep the women beautiful and healthy for the upcoming year.

OK - So Friday, and surprise surprise - a wedding. I'm at that age where my social life revolves around friends nuptials. in fact, we plan our outings like that - all the boys know that we'll see each other at the next wedding anyway. Its all a matter of time. I'm only 25, yet there is still this pressure from people for me to get married soon. Its getting crazy - this guy was palming of his niece to me last week, like she was a PS3 or something. They all get the same four words. I don't mind being the bachelor - the guy who never ticks the 'plus one' bit. My time will come, I know it. I'm not going to live my life alone. And this is something I don't get - we all hear the hadith about how marriage is fulfilling half your iman - heres the full hadith -

Anas ibn Malik Allah’s Messenger (sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) said, “When a man marries he has fulfilled half of the religion; so let him fear Allah regarding the remaining half.” (Tirmidhi, 3096 and Bayhaqi)

Notice that there is a second part to the hadith. Marriage is something that we need to work towards - no use saying I have completed half my iman, yet you are an abusive husband or an adulterous wife or anything like that. When I get married, I want to do right towards my wife. OK - we all do - no one gets married to make someone else miserable for the rest of their lives, but it happens.

This was supposed to be a report of King of The Plate - its funny how we start at one place, and end up at another.

Today's highlighted article is called Half of your Faith by Professor Tariq Ramadan, who I had the pleasure of meeting last year - He is in my mind, the foremost Muslim Intellectual in the world today.

In other news - Delivery Guy dropped of three copies of the latest 'Digital Life' magazine, and I'm happy to say that one of my articles got published and is the Editors pick for April. Thanks to a friend for reminding me that I don't need people telling me that they are proud of me. I should be proud of my own achievements first, before looking towards others for recognition. We all want to be acknowledged somehow - to prove that in some way, we are better, more deserving. But this should come from within. Don't get me wrong - I love being told that you are proud of me, but it shouldn't be the driving factor as opposed to self enrichment.

Marriage should be like butter chicken - Just peachy



Anonymous said...

I totally love your views MJ..this is why I read your blog! :P IF only I wasn’t a lot older than you..sigh..

I know I get defensive over this whole marriage "completes half your deen" malarky but it does irritate me that people focus on one thing and forget other equally important issues.

Oh and FYI ( and for any unsuspecting fans out there) my blog is back but on a temporary URL as I is experiencing some techi issues which include logging into blogger:

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r said...

iv got the recipe for butter chicken from the chef who used to be at eastern rendesvous (i know thats somehow spelt wrong). it is peachy. And bloody easy to make. I can give to you if you'd like. No, i won't make it and send it for you. Congrats on the MYDL pick :)

bb_aisha said...

1. as per r-butter chicken-& cooking in general-is downright easy to do. learn. that will make me really proud of u:-)

2.The problem lies with those who think you're abnormal because you choose to be single. There's something wrong with those who are unable to be single. And people who think us singletons are sad & pathetic ut because we're not hitched are the truly sad & pathetic. getting married at 18 is not an achievement

3. congrats-wow! you're published in a mag.good going

Anonymous said...

oooooooooooooooohhhh yummy!!
really fell for your words...